That Boy loved “SUGAR”

Rohaan was all of 25 and being forced into a marriage (he didn’t want) by his “khaandaan”.

The girl came from a rich-well-to do family, was apparently “pretty” and had gone to a convent school and would “bring a fat dowry” – BUT hush hush 
don’t call it dowry always followed…

Oh how he Abhorred that word – DOWRY!

But then Dadi and Ma went onto count out the amount that had been spent on him and his education at Harward. And those people were just giving “gifts” worthy of their family…. they were NOT taking DOWRY!

Sigh – how he wished he could simply tell them to “bugger off”! He loved both women like mad – BUT they made him MAD! Mad at them, and mad at the world…

Rohaan – The Boy Who Loved “Sugar” Continue reading That Boy loved “SUGAR”

THE GIRL WHO NEVER laughed

Rukku was all dressed up in this amazing long red flowing gown. Her hair was perfectly set as straight waterfall like shiney and smooth black depths. Her lips were a ruby red.

The ocean beyond beckoned but she looked onto the stars – as if tempting them to come to her.

“Rukku – where are you?” , came a loving male voice (almost like a caress)

Rukku in Red (this is a free image used from the internet)

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Mere Papa Feminist hain…

“Mere papa feminist hain…” – this is a heartfelt comment made by this gaggle of girls – more as a sense of wonderment than proclamation…

Happy to have interacted with 50 rural and semi – urban girls – of the age group of 10 to 13 yrs in the Ranchi District area.

Our discussion point veered right from what adolescence is to what feminism is – and why is there “so much halla against feminism”

And then the shining moment on how men can be feminists – and then the “Mere papa feminist hain…” moment!

This is a dedication to all girls who have feminist Dads and all Dads who aspire to be feminists – I am sharing ALL that was shared with me today:

Mere Papa Feminist hain

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Dear Mom …. Please Raise me as a Feminist Son!

Drawing inspiration from ALL amazing Moms (and Dads) who are raising amazingly Feminist Sons

These are normal people from all walks of life, from working professionals, to stay at home moms and a few stay at home dads, to some vibrant parents from the Bottom of the Pyramid…

Dear Mom ,

Please Raise me as a Feminist Son!

A Boy – needing to be a Feminist!

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Is she ACTUALLY being Sexually Harassed?

Men and Women BOTH always question if a woman ACTUALLY being Sexually Harassed , or did she misunderstand? Or it wasn’t meant to be? Or she was over-reacting?

 Then the uglier spectrum of – oh she was just “asking for it”, – look at the way she dresses, look at the way she drinks at office parties, look at the way she stays back late to work, look at the way she always works in men only teams

                                                                        Woman at WORK!

So De-Coding ACTUAL Sexual Harassment in 10 quick steps:

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Play Holi CONSENT Waali…

Dear Uncle, Bhaiya, Jiju, Chacha, Friend, BF, Unknown male,

Lets all Play Holi CONSENT Waali

Lets ALL ensure that YOU do not have to ever say “Bura Na Maano Holi Hai….” – this at MOST times simply translates to “Don’t get offended for me BAD/lecherous behavior – after all its Holi”

And ALL you have to do is watch out for the signs of NO – Consent…. and NOT do those actions….

Holi should make you smile – NOT cry!

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On the eve of Women’s Day…

On the eve of Women’s Day – lets change the way our Public Figures speak out against women and their right to live!

How you ask? After all the constitution gives women equal rights – and the IPC protects women – well lets just start with random comments made from large public platforms like “boys will be boys” and “women are like sugar who shall attract ants”….

Do we smell Misogyny anyone?

10 quick WHAT NOT to do for our Public Figures….

                               Why cant our Public Figures stop misogynistic speeches?

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Gurmehar Kaur is an Idiot (perhaps) BUT…

Dear Trolls/People/Media/Politicians/Sports stars (now this one shocked me),

Lets start with clearing a few things:

  1. Gurmehar Kaur may or may not be an idiot

  2. Gurmehar Kaur may or may not be the daughter of a Kargil martyr

  3. Gurmehar Kaur may or may not be an AAP type volunteer

  4. Gurmehar Kaur may or may not be an opportunist….

  5. Gurmehar Kaur …. etc etc…

BUT Gurmehar Kaur is a WOMAN!

This is NOT Gurmehar Kaur! Continue reading Gurmehar Kaur is an Idiot (perhaps) BUT…

“Violence against women—it’s a men’s issue”

A very powerful TED talk by Jackson Katz: “Violence against women—it’s a men’s issue”

I have personally encountered so so many of these in the last 8 years of working with women…and speaking to men who have in turn been intertwined with the lives of women:

https://www.ted.com/talks/jackson_katz_violence_against_women_it_s_a_men_s_issue#t-706870

https://www.ted.com/talks/jackson_katz_violence_against_women_it_s_a_men_s_issue#t-706870

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