8th April late night saw me “rant” on FB about Body-shaming! (the excerpt is below)
WHY did I write on FB ?
- I meant to actually get things off my chest and tell each body shamer I know personally to “take a hike”
- I meant to stand up for myself – and TEACH others around me who watch me – to stand up for herself/himself
I got some very lovely and empowering responses in terms of around 250 plus likes and 65 msgs (this number is still rising)
Sharing a few with you (there were 65 comments):
NOW reading these words and the so many many more – all I realised was that for every Body-Shamer and Troll – I was surrounded by 10s of positive souls!
I realised that each piece of hurt was soothed over so many many times…. and that too on a public platform!
I know writing about my own personal “feelings” isn’t my strength – BUT writing this piece made of STRONG!
It liberated me in a very strange way…
Body shaming is of so many types – ranging from:
- You are FAT (my kind)
- You are too thin – are you a stick/toothpick?
- You are too dark – night black. This off course has a full cream to take care of
- Your hair is too thin
- Your hair is too curly
- Your nose is fat
- Your eyes are too small – are you chinky?
- You are sooo hairy – didn’t you ever put ubtan? Try some permanent solutions to this
- You are too short
- You are too tall…
And this list simply goes on and on and on…. till YOU stop it yourself…..
Anyone who comments at your body in jest/joke or says “they are saying it for your own good” or they say “don’t take it other-wise”… “MY FRIEND” (am saying this sarcastically – as someone like this cannot be a friend)
“MY FRIEND” – we all hearing you body shame us….and we like good Indians do NOT react…
We ALL know what YOU are upto… YOU are out to make us miserable – make us feel bad – ruin our moment of triumph – kill the joy in our heart….
But who is at fault? The body shamer? YES…. How creepy?!!
BUT what about you? Are you not at fault for allow him/her to get away with CRAP and SH**?I
Your silence gives him/her more ammunition – he/she goes onto hurt you another time and also gets emboldened to hurt others…
I stood up – to SHAME body SHAMERS…
YOU should too…
Stand up if someone shames you….
Stand up if someone shames anyone around you….
Call out the Body-Shamer…. they should be the ones shamed!
THIS coming from a woman who has been shamed for the better part of 7 years….
Shamed into feeling that ALL that she was doing was on one side… and her FAT (her being PLUS) was on one side…
Shamed into not realising WHAT the body-shamer did, was to win against her…
I shall not be body-shamed anymore!
I shall strive to be the “best version of ME” possible…