Main Sou-bhagyawati hoon…

Veering from Misogynistic women – to women who truly understand the value of girls. Sharing a short conversation I had the privilege of being a neutral party to

A peep of elation for me, I met a pregnant woman from a BOP (Bottom of the Pyramid) family who had a serene smile on her face and a beautiful hope in her heart…

“Saas ne sau-bhagyawati ka aashirwad diya tha… To zaroor ladki hogi!”

“I want a girl child…”

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Misogynistic women exist

Misogyny is “dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women” as per the dictionary.

And YES misogyny is practiced by women too!

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                                                     Why do women hate women?

Understanding misogyny when followed by women (and hating it):
Sharing a conversation with 2 women misogynists whom I had the complete displeasure and misfortune of meeting.

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Nirbhaya ke baad?

Delhi became the focal point in 2012 on 16th day of December – for a young girl was brutally raped and then her insides were mauled and mangled (almost as if she was an animal in a slaughter house) – and all because she dared to travel late in the evening with her friend (who was male). She was named ‘Nirbhaya’ by the media. It took a lot of courage for her father to come up and name her – he said – she was Jyoti Singh and she was scared to die! She was NOT Nirbhaya (without fear)!

Its 4 long years – and 4 times there have been candle lit marches, protests – a lot of noise by the political masters, the legal guardians and law makers and implementers – so what has changed?

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Post Nirbhaya – WHAT?

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Daayan Pratha : A Negative Gloom

A negative gloom: a detailed discussion on Daayan Pratha / Witch Craft and its prevalence in Jharkhand in the name of social, religious and superstitious beliefs…
To those who know… And to those who don’t.
An ugly reality which women in rural Jharkhand face are being branded a Daayan or a Witch – and then being publically shamed, beaten, paraded naked and finally killed.
The supposed powers of these women accused of witchcraft range from domestic animals dying/disappearing to children dying to people falling ill.

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Old widowed women are often branded as Daayans

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Can the Top Court Change Society?

I have been wondering WHY our Top Court observed (SPECULATE) on possible riots which “could have been ” caused by the demonetization effort.

As a normal Indian, I am wondering why the Top Court didn’t observe or act on the following:

  • Slam the TN HC judge for asking a rape victim to marry her rapist

Criminalize marital rape. The courts have chosen NOT to react or observe on this matter. And all the while our elected leaders have veered from marital rape is impossible to marriage is sacred!!!

Questions Questions Questions
  • Strike off article 377 – and finally give LGBT community their rights as independent citizens with a right to live with their choices of gender and sexual orientation.
  • Allow a murderer and rapist a life sentence instead of the death row, stating that “he didn’t mean to kill” …. stumped about this one completely.
  • Ensure that child rapists are deemed paedophiles and shut away forever. What can be worse than this?
  • Take note of public personalities when they make statements like “boys will be boys”… when 2 girls are raped and hung from a tree. Or when a public personality immediately drubs a rape victim as a prostitute…. so prostitutes cannot be raped is it??

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Why does Urban – Mommyhood equal a career break?

Mommyhood in India almost always defined a career break taken by working mothers out of what they refer to as their choice. I question that tenet in the 1st place – and ask that is it YOUR choice or the choice of social norms?

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                                “Urban Mommyhood”

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5 steps to Empower Women

Fighting Patriarchy is a long journey – filled with strife and rigid mindsets. On this journey we need to start empowering the women around us.

NOTE – this piece is for BOTH men and women who do not believe in patriarchy and would like to have gender equality around them!

BTW – men too are feminist if they believe that women are equal. Remember by the simple dictionary meaning – feminism is the belief that women are equal to men. And NO it does not say that men are inferior!

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                                                           Fighting the chains of Patriarchy

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Recognize Patriarchy for what it is (Series 1)

Patriarchy is defined by a male oriented social norm – which largely leaves women out. It speaks of male dominance in all aspects of life.

We need to understand what Patriarchy is and confront it. This norm not only de-humanizes men but ensures that they suffer as much as the women in this web.

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I like Adichie’s version of Feminism!

I read this piece around the thoughts of acclaimed Nigerian author, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie – on what she thought Feminism was and “raising your daughters right”. She comes from a highly patriarchal society and has faced her own series of struggles and continues to advocate for women’s rights and opportunities.

In one of my favourite quotes Adichie says :

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Adichie’s brand of feminism

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Remembering #NayiSoch : Son of Saroj

In a patriarchal set up where you are known by the name of your father and it takes a PIL by a mother in the SC of India, to get the mother names as ‘natural guardian’ – this ad was like a breath of fresh air!

Introducing – Son of Saroj

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