Gurmehar Kaur is an Idiot (perhaps) BUT…

Dear Trolls/People/Media/Politicians/Sports stars (now this one shocked me),

Lets start with clearing a few things:

  1. Gurmehar Kaur may or may not be an idiot

  2. Gurmehar Kaur may or may not be the daughter of a Kargil martyr

  3. Gurmehar Kaur may or may not be an AAP type volunteer

  4. Gurmehar Kaur may or may not be an opportunist….

  5. Gurmehar Kaur …. etc etc…

BUT Gurmehar Kaur is a WOMAN!

This is NOT Gurmehar Kaur! Continue reading Gurmehar Kaur is an Idiot (perhaps) BUT…

“Violence against women—it’s a men’s issue”

A very powerful TED talk by Jackson Katz: “Violence against women—it’s a men’s issue”

I have personally encountered so so many of these in the last 8 years of working with women…and speaking to men who have in turn been intertwined with the lives of women:

https://www.ted.com/talks/jackson_katz_violence_against_women_it_s_a_men_s_issue#t-706870

https://www.ted.com/talks/jackson_katz_violence_against_women_it_s_a_men_s_issue#t-706870

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“Women in the field of Entrepreneurship”

Gender and Women – in the field of Entrepreneurship – This was my topic at the 8th Jan #TheNextBigThing event at #Ranchi.
A first for me – discussing gender issues in a space where I normally address people on Social Entrepreneurship.
Gender is like an elephant in the room. We don’t talk about it in the open. We wish to “appear” to be gender agnostic – but we aren’t.

                               Speaking about Gender issues in Entrepreneurship

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#BreakTheBias – loved this Titan ad!

It shows so aptly what men and even women do when faced with a situation which can be “gender-charged” just by virtue of the name!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hNqwBTCslMw

                           https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hNqwBTCslMw

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Confused Misogynists?

Misogyny is the dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. But  seeing through the misogynistic glass: discussions online and offline with many women and some men leads me to some rather startling facts:

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Misogynists aren’t aware of their own misogyny

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Main Sou-bhagyawati hoon…

Veering from Misogynistic women – to women who truly understand the value of girls. Sharing a short conversation I had the privilege of being a neutral party to

A peep of elation for me, I met a pregnant woman from a BOP (Bottom of the Pyramid) family who had a serene smile on her face and a beautiful hope in her heart…

“Saas ne sau-bhagyawati ka aashirwad diya tha… To zaroor ladki hogi!”

“I want a girl child…”

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Misogynistic women exist

Misogyny is “dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women” as per the dictionary.

And YES misogyny is practiced by women too!

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                                                     Why do women hate women?

Understanding misogyny when followed by women (and hating it):
Sharing a conversation with 2 women misogynists whom I had the complete displeasure and misfortune of meeting.

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Nirbhaya ke baad?

Delhi became the focal point in 2012 on 16th day of December – for a young girl was brutally raped and then her insides were mauled and mangled (almost as if she was an animal in a slaughter house) – and all because she dared to travel late in the evening with her friend (who was male). She was named ‘Nirbhaya’ by the media. It took a lot of courage for her father to come up and name her – he said – she was Jyoti Singh and she was scared to die! She was NOT Nirbhaya (without fear)!

Its 4 long years – and 4 times there have been candle lit marches, protests – a lot of noise by the political masters, the legal guardians and law makers and implementers – so what has changed?

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Post Nirbhaya – WHAT?

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Daayan Pratha : A Negative Gloom

A negative gloom: a detailed discussion on Daayan Pratha / Witch Craft and its prevalence in Jharkhand in the name of social, religious and superstitious beliefs…
To those who know… And to those who don’t.
An ugly reality which women in rural Jharkhand face are being branded a Daayan or a Witch – and then being publically shamed, beaten, paraded naked and finally killed.
The supposed powers of these women accused of witchcraft range from domestic animals dying/disappearing to children dying to people falling ill.

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Old widowed women are often branded as Daayans

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Can the Top Court Change Society?

I have been wondering WHY our Top Court observed (SPECULATE) on possible riots which “could have been ” caused by the demonetization effort.

As a normal Indian, I am wondering why the Top Court didn’t observe or act on the following:

  • Slam the TN HC judge for asking a rape victim to marry her rapist

Criminalize marital rape. The courts have chosen NOT to react or observe on this matter. And all the while our elected leaders have veered from marital rape is impossible to marriage is sacred!!!

Questions Questions Questions
  • Strike off article 377 – and finally give LGBT community their rights as independent citizens with a right to live with their choices of gender and sexual orientation.
  • Allow a murderer and rapist a life sentence instead of the death row, stating that “he didn’t mean to kill” …. stumped about this one completely.
  • Ensure that child rapists are deemed paedophiles and shut away forever. What can be worse than this?
  • Take note of public personalities when they make statements like “boys will be boys”… when 2 girls are raped and hung from a tree. Or when a public personality immediately drubs a rape victim as a prostitute…. so prostitutes cannot be raped is it??

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