Dear Aunty / Mummy-Ji of India,
Let’s get together and once and for all decide who is responsible for RAPE…
The 10 NOs:
- No it’s Not Short Skirts!No it’s Not Red Lipsticks!
- No it’s Not Make Up!
- No it’s Not Low Necklines!
- No it’s Not Low waisted Jeans or any Jeans (for that matter)!
- No it’s Not Low tied Saris with showing navels!
- No it’s Not Transparent Saris!
- No it’s Not Her Giggling!
- No it’s Not Her Looking at Boys!
- No (definitely NOT) her “asking for it”!
- Yes it’s Men (who rape)!
- Yes it’s Women and Men like you who justify Rape (giving any of the reasons above)!
- Yes it’s Men Feeling Threatened that their entitlement has been snatched!
- Yes it’s Men who feel that it’s their duty to show Women their rightful plate (them being judge and jury to punish wayward Women).
- Yes it’s Mother and Aunties who seem to have brought up Men Like THIS!
(A Well Meaning and extremely Alarmed Indian Woman)
Radha – lay quietly weeping on the floor, she had physically curled up like a fetus!
Her hair was a mess, her bangles broken, her clothes ripped, her face battered and bruised, her hands scratched…
Next morning she was woken up by a sound on the door – and she rushed to open it – to realize that she didn’t even have proper clothes on (hers were torn).
A woman and her MIL came in – and sniggered – “Looks like they had fun…”
FUN : This word echoed in Radha’s mind. How the F*** have fun when someone is beating you, cussing at you, tearing your clothes off, scratching you, forcibly entering you…
Continue reading Radha Teri Chunari
I had the most awful moment of awkward silence a few months back, a woman whom I had been speaking to and counselling about her career and job – just blurted – “I was raped…”
This is a 23 year old woman who has been struggling to hold down 1 job and juggle a possible degree! She has always had this haunted and almost vacant look about her – which I could never explain!
The discussion that day was me scolding her for not taking her life seriously – and I was actually reprimanding her – when she had been bunking her evening classes….
And she said the “R” word – and that lead me to the discovery that I lacked the vocabulary to speak to her!
So WHAT should you say/not say or do/not do when someone close to you or someone comes up and says “I was raped….”
A woman in PAIN! Continue reading What do YOU say to someone who has been raped….